Julklappen som utan tvekan gjorde mig gladast var n?r min styvson best?mde sig f?r att spendera hela dagen med mig. Det r?cker med att s?ga att hans mamma inte var av b?sta karakt?r. Hans biologiska far var v?rre. Relationen mellan Mindy och jag f?rs?mrades efter ?r ett, men jag stack ut f?r Nate. Varf?r? Jag k?nde att ungen var f?r beg?vad atletiskt och intellektuellt f?r att bli ytterligare ett exempel p? bortkastad f?rm?ga. Jag ?r 110% seri?s n?r jag s?ger att jag var tvungen att spela mamma och pappa under de 8 ?r som jag var gift med hans mamma. Varje utvald basebollaktivitet. Varje f?r?ldram?te. Varje tur hit och dit. Varje kv?ll hj?lper han honom med skolarbetet. Han smyger tidigt fr?n jobbet f?r att tr?na i spel. F?r att f? honom till skolan och sociala tillst?llningar. Allt detta ut?ver att ha ett s?ljjobb d?r jag jobbade 60+ timmar per vecka.
Hans mamma och jag skilde oss s? sm?ningom, men Nate och jag har fortfarande kontakt n?stan varje dag. Han spelar college baseball och ?r p? Dean's List p? college just nu. Han tar examen i maj med en examen i straffr?tt, med en bi?mne i sociologi. Jag kunde inte vara stoltare.
Bara det faktum att han best?mde sig f?r att tillbringa julen exklusivt med mig fick mig att inse att han verkligen uppskattade allt jag gjorde f?r honom n?r jag v?xte upp. Alla uppoffringar. Hela tiden. Alla pengar. All m?da. Jag beh?vde ingen present. Hans f?rst?else f?r dynamiken i hush?llet n?r jag v?xte upp var den b?sta g?van jag kunde ha f?tt. Jag ser fram emot ett bra f?rh?llande med honom i m?nga ?r fram?ver.
The Christmas present that undoubtedly made me the happiest was when my stepson decided to spend the entire day with me. Suffice to say that his mother was not of the best character. His biological father was worse. The relationship between Mindy & I deteriorated after year one, but I stuck it out for Nate. Why? I felt that the kid was too gifted athletically and intellectually to become another example of wasted ability. I am 110% serious when I say that I had to play mother and father for the 8 years of marriage to his mom. Every select baseball activity. Every parent-teacher meeting. Every ride here and there. Every night helping him with schoolwork. Sneaking out of work early to make his practices in games. To get him to school & social events. All of this on top of having a sales job where I worked 60+ hours per week.
His mother and I eventually got divorced, but Nate and I are still in touch almost every day. He plays college baseball and is on the Dean's List in college right now. He graduates in May with a degree in criminal justice, with a minor in sociology. I couldn't be prouder.
Just the fact that he decided to spend Christmas exclusively with me, made me realize that he really did appreciate everything I did for him growing up. All the sacrifices. All the time. All the money. All the effort. I didn't need a gift. His understanding of the dynamic in the household growing up was the best gift I could have received. I look forward to a great relationship with him for many years to come.
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